This really resonated with me due to have severe childhood trauma. Not in exactly the same ways, I am sure. We're all different, as are our experiences. However, I empathise as much as I can. I try not to let the world embitter me. It's hard. You have to protect your own wellbeing and space.
It was very brave to share this, Ruri. I admire you. You always seem a very cerebral and honest person. I hope that you and your family recover from this unfortunate circumstance, whatever it is. You're a driven and resourceful person, so I have faith that you will.
Again, 'appreciate you sharing this. I was having a bad day mentally, and it does help to remember that everyone has their struggles and is trying to keep going.
I grew up in a family that was always fighting each other and ended up being someone that unconsciously tries to avoid clashes. It took me time to notice this and see how that tendency was impacting my life.
Nowadays, my way of dealing is being actively aware of what is worth arguing and fighting for and/or investing my time. Of course, we never know for sure.
I guess with trust it might be similar. We may end up choosing which risks are worth taking, and will probably collect some scars along the way. But I think that's how we make connections, being vulnerable and real. Knowing when to do that is the big question xD but, as you say, it is part of appreciating the good times more.
Thanks for sharing this with us. I appreciate your time and knowing a bit more about you. Hope this finds you well o/
The lesson I‘ve learned is to never trust people regarding money. Everyone have to earn my respect. Sth. I had to face with 15 years old. Nerver forgot it.
Ah Ruri, sana imreniyorum. Birşeyler başardın ve ayaklarının üstünde tek başına durabiliyorsun. Ben ise daha yolun başındayım ve öyle isteksizim ki. Bu mesajı ingilizce yazmayı düşündüm ama İngilizcem iyi olmadığı için (çeviri kullanma zahmetine girmeden) Türkçe yazdım. Ne de olsa biliyorsun değil mi? :) Bende başarmak istiyorum Ruri. Ama kendimi yetersiz hissediyorum.:(
I raised up in a divorced family, It makes me feel like the marrage is not the most thing that I want to chase, I think I better stay focus on my life style instead of those kinds of annoying family issues...
If you're finding it difficult to trust people, then first of all, I must congratulate you.. because the natural instinct of human beings is to trust and most people find it difficult to not trust people , which you seem to have successfully acquired .. :)
Usually, when we are growing up and are naive about the outer world, we tend to trust easily. When we go out of our comfort zone, we come face to face with the harsh reality of the difficulty of life and how some people tend to deceive without the slightest trace of humanity. All these make us sceptical and less trusting of people. Also if one has had to face the atrocities of life since a very young age, that makes it difficult for that person to trust as well…
But I personally find this quality to be a blessing. It would make me feel stronger and wiser to be able to voluntarily avoid trusting deceptive and untrustworthy people and trust only the ones who are worth trusting.
If you're finding it difficult to trust people, then first of all, I must congratulate you.. because the natural instinct of human beings is to trust and most people find it difficult to not trust people , which you seem to have successfully acquired .. :)
Usually, when we are growing up and are naive about the outer world, we tend to trust easily. When we go out of our comfort zone, we come face to face with the harsh reality of the difficulty of life and how some people tend to deceive without the slightest trace of humanity. All these make us sceptical and less trusting of people. Also if one has had to face the atrocities of life since a very young age, that makes it difficult for that person to trust as well…
But I personally find this quality to be a blessing. It would make me feel stronger and wiser to be able to voluntarily avoid trusting deceptive and untrustworthy people and trust only the ones who are worth trusting.
If you're finding it difficult to trust people, then first of all, I must congratulate you.. because the natural instinct of human beings is to trust and most people find it difficult to not trust people , which you seem to have successfully acquired .. :)
Usually, when we are growing up and are naive about the outer world, we tend to trust easily. When we go out of our comfort zone, we come face to face with the harsh reality of the difficulty of life and how some people tend to deceive without the slightest trace of humanity. All these make us sceptical and less trusting of people. Also if one has had to face the atrocities of life since a very young age, that makes it difficult for that person to trust as well…
But I personally find this quality to be a blessing. It would make me feel stronger and wiser to be able to voluntarily avoid trusting deceptive and untrustworthy people and trust only the ones who are worth trusting.
If you're finding it difficult to trust people, then first of all, I must congratulate you.. because the natural instinct of human beings is to trust and most people find it difficult to not trust people , which you seem to have successfully acquired .. :)
Usually, when we are growing up and are naive about the outer world, we tend to trust easily. When we go out of our comfort zone, we come face to face with the harsh reality of the difficulty of life and how some people tend to deceive without the slightest trace of humanity. All these make us sceptical and less trusting of people. Also if one has had to face the atrocities of life since a very young age, that makes it difficult for that person to trust as well…
But I personally find this quality to be a blessing. It would make me feel stronger and wiser to be able to voluntarily avoid trusting deceptive and untrustworthy people and trust only the ones who are worth trusting.
So many people are hiding behind veneers of personality that doesn’t express their cores. Combined with muscular armoring from this malfunctioning society, you have to be on the defensive when dealing with others. Lots are just nutty also. And nasty. The truest ones are rare as they have decided to endure along the heroic journey to sanity whilst going through life.
I’m into Taoism, Zen and I’ve studied a little psychotherapy. Most people I know are wondering who they are and what it’s all about. And it negatively affects them and their ability to interact with others. But if you veer a conversation to this side of things they usually feel like their personal sense of self is being undermined and deflect the subject back to the weather. Life is tough and not fair, most of the time.
This really resonated with me due to have severe childhood trauma. Not in exactly the same ways, I am sure. We're all different, as are our experiences. However, I empathise as much as I can. I try not to let the world embitter me. It's hard. You have to protect your own wellbeing and space.
It was very brave to share this, Ruri. I admire you. You always seem a very cerebral and honest person. I hope that you and your family recover from this unfortunate circumstance, whatever it is. You're a driven and resourceful person, so I have faith that you will.
Again, 'appreciate you sharing this. I was having a bad day mentally, and it does help to remember that everyone has their struggles and is trying to keep going.
I grew up in a family that was always fighting each other and ended up being someone that unconsciously tries to avoid clashes. It took me time to notice this and see how that tendency was impacting my life.
Nowadays, my way of dealing is being actively aware of what is worth arguing and fighting for and/or investing my time. Of course, we never know for sure.
I guess with trust it might be similar. We may end up choosing which risks are worth taking, and will probably collect some scars along the way. But I think that's how we make connections, being vulnerable and real. Knowing when to do that is the big question xD but, as you say, it is part of appreciating the good times more.
Thanks for sharing this with us. I appreciate your time and knowing a bit more about you. Hope this finds you well o/
I think i have same childhood trauma as yours so thanks for sharing your way to deal with it so i ganna try it and see if it does work for me or not .
Really thanks
And thank you ruri to newsletter this topic ❤️
You're welcome! And I hope you find your way to deal with it. Being aware of it is really a big step!
The lesson I‘ve learned is to never trust people regarding money. Everyone have to earn my respect. Sth. I had to face with 15 years old. Nerver forgot it.
Ah Ruri, sana imreniyorum. Birşeyler başardın ve ayaklarının üstünde tek başına durabiliyorsun. Ben ise daha yolun başındayım ve öyle isteksizim ki. Bu mesajı ingilizce yazmayı düşündüm ama İngilizcem iyi olmadığı için (çeviri kullanma zahmetine girmeden) Türkçe yazdım. Ne de olsa biliyorsun değil mi? :) Bende başarmak istiyorum Ruri. Ama kendimi yetersiz hissediyorum.:(
I raised up in a divorced family, It makes me feel like the marrage is not the most thing that I want to chase, I think I better stay focus on my life style instead of those kinds of annoying family issues...
If you're finding it difficult to trust people, then first of all, I must congratulate you.. because the natural instinct of human beings is to trust and most people find it difficult to not trust people , which you seem to have successfully acquired .. :)
Usually, when we are growing up and are naive about the outer world, we tend to trust easily. When we go out of our comfort zone, we come face to face with the harsh reality of the difficulty of life and how some people tend to deceive without the slightest trace of humanity. All these make us sceptical and less trusting of people. Also if one has had to face the atrocities of life since a very young age, that makes it difficult for that person to trust as well…
But I personally find this quality to be a blessing. It would make me feel stronger and wiser to be able to voluntarily avoid trusting deceptive and untrustworthy people and trust only the ones who are worth trusting.
It's a boon to have such a quality.
Why is hard for me to trust someone?
Why is it difficult to trust people?
If you're finding it difficult to trust people, then first of all, I must congratulate you.. because the natural instinct of human beings is to trust and most people find it difficult to not trust people , which you seem to have successfully acquired .. :)
Usually, when we are growing up and are naive about the outer world, we tend to trust easily. When we go out of our comfort zone, we come face to face with the harsh reality of the difficulty of life and how some people tend to deceive without the slightest trace of humanity. All these make us sceptical and less trusting of people. Also if one has had to face the atrocities of life since a very young age, that makes it difficult for that person to trust as well…
But I personally find this quality to be a blessing. It would make me feel stronger and wiser to be able to voluntarily avoid trusting deceptive and untrustworthy people and trust only the ones who are worth trusting.
It's a boon to have such a quality.
If you're finding it difficult to trust people, then first of all, I must congratulate you.. because the natural instinct of human beings is to trust and most people find it difficult to not trust people , which you seem to have successfully acquired .. :)
Usually, when we are growing up and are naive about the outer world, we tend to trust easily. When we go out of our comfort zone, we come face to face with the harsh reality of the difficulty of life and how some people tend to deceive without the slightest trace of humanity. All these make us sceptical and less trusting of people. Also if one has had to face the atrocities of life since a very young age, that makes it difficult for that person to trust as well…
But I personally find this quality to be a blessing. It would make me feel stronger and wiser to be able to voluntarily avoid trusting deceptive and untrustworthy people and trust only the ones who are worth trusting.
It's a boon to have such a quality.
If you're finding it difficult to trust people, then first of all, I must congratulate you.. because the natural instinct of human beings is to trust and most people find it difficult to not trust people , which you seem to have successfully acquired .. :)
Usually, when we are growing up and are naive about the outer world, we tend to trust easily. When we go out of our comfort zone, we come face to face with the harsh reality of the difficulty of life and how some people tend to deceive without the slightest trace of humanity. All these make us sceptical and less trusting of people. Also if one has had to face the atrocities of life since a very young age, that makes it difficult for that person to trust as well…
But I personally find this quality to be a blessing. It would make me feel stronger and wiser to be able to voluntarily avoid trusting deceptive and untrustworthy people and trust only the ones who are worth trusting.
It's a boon to have such a quality.
So many people are hiding behind veneers of personality that doesn’t express their cores. Combined with muscular armoring from this malfunctioning society, you have to be on the defensive when dealing with others. Lots are just nutty also. And nasty. The truest ones are rare as they have decided to endure along the heroic journey to sanity whilst going through life.
I’m into Taoism, Zen and I’ve studied a little psychotherapy. Most people I know are wondering who they are and what it’s all about. And it negatively affects them and their ability to interact with others. But if you veer a conversation to this side of things they usually feel like their personal sense of self is being undermined and deflect the subject back to the weather. Life is tough and not fair, most of the time.
The hills go up and down.
❤️
Ruriyle ireli 🤌💪💪💪🤞🇹🇷🇦🇿