Why is it so hard to trust people?
Since childhood, I’ve struggled to trust people due to my so-called “childhood traumas” (it’s not clinically diagnosed, so I can’t say for sure). I’ve seen people around me getting betrayed by people they love and trust the most, and I’m not even talking about simple betrayals. I’m talking about severe and traumatizing betrayals affecting the whole family’s life.
As a child, my coping mechanism always told me not to trust anyone and always suspect people. Not only is it a super tiring thing to do, but it also makes you quite toxic when you judge and doubt everyone’s actions and think everyone will betray you at some point in life.
And as if god (I’m not religious, I like to use it as a phrase) wants to prove to me that I shouldn’t trust anyone in this life; this summer, my family and I experienced probably one of the lowest moments of our lives. I can’t share the details about what happened due to privacy but imagine being betrayed by someone you truly trusted as a family. Because of the things that happened during the summer, we’ve been in a financially challenging situation.
I’m super thankful that I have youtube and other sources of income to support the whole family. Even though it’s super stressful and challenging, I believe I will grow much from this experience, and the hard time makes the family come closer. I appreciate everything I have, and I genuinely believe that everything will only get better. I appreciate your support, and once everything is over, I’ll share the details about the things that happened. I’m sure it will inspire many people and give hope if you’re in a bad place.
One thing I can say is nothing lasts forever. Bad and good moments, both of them will end at some point. So why not enjoy our good moments to their full potential and grow as a person when we’re struggling. It’ll only make us appreciate the good times more.
The things I enjoyed this week:
Book: Fluent Forever-Gabriel Wyner
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I hope you’ll have a fantastic week,
Ruri
This really resonated with me due to have severe childhood trauma. Not in exactly the same ways, I am sure. We're all different, as are our experiences. However, I empathise as much as I can. I try not to let the world embitter me. It's hard. You have to protect your own wellbeing and space.
It was very brave to share this, Ruri. I admire you. You always seem a very cerebral and honest person. I hope that you and your family recover from this unfortunate circumstance, whatever it is. You're a driven and resourceful person, so I have faith that you will.
Again, 'appreciate you sharing this. I was having a bad day mentally, and it does help to remember that everyone has their struggles and is trying to keep going.
I grew up in a family that was always fighting each other and ended up being someone that unconsciously tries to avoid clashes. It took me time to notice this and see how that tendency was impacting my life.
Nowadays, my way of dealing is being actively aware of what is worth arguing and fighting for and/or investing my time. Of course, we never know for sure.
I guess with trust it might be similar. We may end up choosing which risks are worth taking, and will probably collect some scars along the way. But I think that's how we make connections, being vulnerable and real. Knowing when to do that is the big question xD but, as you say, it is part of appreciating the good times more.
Thanks for sharing this with us. I appreciate your time and knowing a bit more about you. Hope this finds you well o/